What To Do When She tells You She's Pregnant!

What to Do When She Tells You She is Pregnant

Perhaps right now everything in your relationship is just perfect, things are going great at school or college and life looks pretty rosy. You made out with your girlfriend a few times and have really enjoyed being intimate. Physically you seem to be the perfect match and the sex just gets better every time. One day you get a text message from her that she is desperate to see you, and of course you feel great because it is so nice to feel special and so wanted. You love her so… and it is great to know she is missing you…

When you finally get to see her later, a worried look on her face tells you something is wrong, seriously wrong and you wonder if she wants to break up with you or something. Then she drops the bomb and your girlfriend tells you she is pregnant. In one disbelieving moment your whole life seems to come crashing down around you, thoughts of your career, your studies, your parents flash in front of you…. Next to breaking up, this is one of the most devastating sentences any young couple never wants to hear.

We all know that a child is not for a day or a month or a year it is FOREVER, and a huge responsibly to bear for any young unmarried couple!!! You must collect your thoughts and think coolly! Immediately placing blame is the first thing that most partners start doing… Just remember it takes two… Now what to do?

First of all Discuss it between your selves calmly after you have absorbed the shock and weigh up the options.

The first step is to openly talk about what has happened with each other and what you are going to do about your girlfriend being pregnant. Both your lives have now changed in a big way and there are sensible options to handle these issues. Discuss how having a child will change your lives, your careers, your relationship. Do not place blame or get angry at each other, because it is both your fault. Even if precautions were taken, something like this can still happen and does. Forget about running away, having an abortion, or other drastic actions. Your girlfriend will need all the support she can get, and your love and caring will be a huge relief rather than anger and blame. Look for support and this should start with your parents…

Arrange a meeting with your parents

Get both parents; hers and yours together, and tell them calmly what has happened. It does not matter what their initial reactions are going to be. They may also be explosive and angry at what has happened initially and will take a littler time to absorb the shock. After they have finally cooled off they will be perhaps be able to make practical suggestions to you both on what the best solutions are going to be. It may be better to talk to both sets of parents as well rather than going through everything twice.

Better safe than sorry.

My advice; before taking the big step in a relationship and going physical, make sure to take sensible precautions which goes without saying…. Making love to each other is the ultimate commitment after all but there are going to be consequences. Invest in expert advice and guides for relationships which include advice on being intimate by checking out all the links on this blog. Your girlfriend being pregnant does not have to mean the end of the world!!